We had to deal with the loss of a family member last week. It was the first time where I watched someone take their last breath. The reality of this was surreal that I had to take perspective to what I was witnessing. As she took her last breadth I saw beauty as she lay there on the hospital bed, with her children beside her touching her face, hands, head and hear and down by the foot of the bed are some of her grandchildren, touching her feet, legs. Weeping but at same time saying goodbye to this beloved woman who spent all of her life raising her 14 children.
I always thought that my grandmother was an amazing (crazy!) lady to have had 14 children… and at that time she never had baby monitors, breast pumps, food processors, bugaboo prams and pretty cots. No none of that. My Mom’s early memory of her mother was that she always had a baby in her and one on her at all times. Not to mention she could converse in 4 different languages and till her 93rd Birthday she enjoyed long conversations on the phone.
But the biggest appreciation for her came to me during the days of her funeral. The days after her death brought together 4 generations of families. I look at what my Grandmother sacrificed raising 14 children, which meant no chance for family travel, no fancy restaurant meals, no pretty furniture and comfortable quiet peaceful home, no time to her self… but when I look at at my children I can see now who the real benefactors are.
My Grandparents blessed us with the most precious gift in the world which is the gift of Family. We have family spread out into so many countries around the world. Seeing them all come together to pay their respects their mother and Grandmother I can’t help but notice how amazingly vast we have spread ourselves but at the same time we are all still part of One.
When I brought my children to the wake I was humbled by how my Aunties instantly took on the role of Grandmothers, cousins took the role of Aunties and Uncles and my Nieces and Nephews took the role of Brother or Sister to my kids and vice versa. That is the beauty of our existence and truly God’s blessings for us to understand the vastness of what Love is.
So embrace the people in your family. Give them a call and get complete with each and every one of them. They might be completely different in personality to you but is just a small stone in the ocean to the amounts of benefits