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GRIT – By Angela Duckworth

GRIT Angela Duckworth

I honestly do not know how I managed to finish a book in less then a month. I tend to think that I do not have any time to read a book let alone finish it. So clearly I am pulling time from the sky and making it happen. Goes to show that you do make time for what you feel is important. I believe reading should be one of them.

If you are in the business of following your passion. Then this book IS a must read. I think I got a whole lot of nuggets from here. I don’t tend to run the highlighter onto my books, (primarily because I borrow most of my books from the library now and therefore that would be wrong) but what I do though is write a whole lot of post-it notes and stick them all over. When I’m done I pull out each note and read them over again because I seriously can’t absorb information just by reading it once (hands up if you can relate).

With this book, I not only read back each note but I made sure to document it for easy reference. In a nutshell this book Grit is not about success though being talented. Yes, some people can acquire success with their talent but for the rest of us, success is achievable through this simple thing called effort. As Will Smith put it quite clearly:

“Die on the treadmill. But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things. You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die. It’s really that simple.”

Find your passion and stick to it, work hard at it. Don’t use set-baks as poof that it doesn’t work for you. Banish that thought from your head forever. Instead replace it with the word GRIT! It’s a cool word and you don’t hear it being used very often. Think to yourself that this is the word that you would like be associated with and push forward with effort…. and GET this book! x

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International Women’s Day

What do we celebrate on International Women’s Day?

  1. Feminism?
  2. Sisterhood?
  3. Women’s Rights?
  4. All of the above???

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Starting from my mother, aunts, grandmother, cousins and girlfriends. They were my first influences, boys were not relatable except for my Dad but he was basically my hero. But these women were my first and primary influences growing up. They were ALL amazeballs! They kick ass especially my mom who worked but yet managed to be there for her family. She was the rock we all sat on in the middle of the shark infested waters ~ Ala Blake Lively in that shark movie. However I grew up a very insecure girl, why? Because society said I wasn’t good enough.

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Why are women never treated equal I will never understand. I think it has a-lot to do with insecurity of men. Maybe it’s the same reason why women don’t take stronger stands with supporting one another.

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Internation Women’s Day to me is all about women empowering other women. Sharing stories about your struggles doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you human and COURAGES. It opens the door to empathy which then leads to connection.


I’m reading this awesome book by Brené Brown, get your hands on it if you can with a good highlighter. There’s lots of good nuggets in there.


I’ve planted a photo here of my Grandma, my dear friend Chrissie and my Mom. *Note to Self: Take better photos with people’s faces fully in frame!* On that note I’m going to leave you with good thoughts of Love and Kindness.

Onwards and Upwards,

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We’ll it has been a year long hiatus but I’m back! Urban Kandy is now back in business after a long soul searching, praying, contemplating, procrastinating… etc. etc. I really had to detox and re-think my direction. Sure children had been the biggest excuse.. and why not? I’m a mom and I have made them my priority. Now… I’m thinking these kids might soon turn into little spoilt brats if I don’t step back on the mothering and leave them to sort themselves out once in a while and I go for Yoga!

Anyway, I’m SO happy to be back and blogging.

Love, Sx



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Happy 2016!


Happy 2016!
Already back in the grind and smelling the coffee each morning reminds me that the holidays are finally over. I felt a little upset un-decorating my tree but I also felt a sense of excitement to start the new year. I am against resolutions but I do want to take into play all that I’ve learned in 2015 and apply them to this New Year and basically putting one foot in front of the other this time a little wiser then before.

A few things. I have learned:
1) Creating Possibilities.

It is as easy as it sounds. Nothing else is holding me back except for myself. With that in mind I can create anything knowing that nothing external can hold me back. Onward and Upward!


2) Relationships are to be cherished

Despite how different I am from someone else. Understanding that someone’s personality is derived from their life’s circumstances and who am I to judge.


3) Never feel guilty for taking “Me” time

I have this thanks her for this.


4) Practice Being Present

I have come to the realisation that that voice in my head isn’t really me or who I am. So now I can be present to it and learn to control it.


5) Don’t sweat the small stuff

Keep taking the calculated big leaps first then worry about the safe stuff later. I have always avoided the bigger decision out of fear of the unknown. Practice keeping to the integrity of the possibility I’ve created



6) Read more romance novels

As cheesy as some of these stories are it does the trick to help me gravitate to being a more loving wife.

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Great Acts

We’re back from our month long hiatus and we’re fully charged once again and rearing to GO!

I’ve not made much press of this but we’ve recently participated in the wonderful Public Garden event and I had a wonderful time. Although it was through the weekend and I usually like to spend the weekend with my family but this was my first Public Garden event and thought it’ll be good to give it a go. I’m glad I did because I had lots and lots of fun. Met some lovely people and especially some beautiful vendors who are very true and passionate to their trade which was so lovely to be a part of.

Some great vendors I had the pleasure to meet.



Mason & Smith



Moody Mary


I got to meet Moody Mary’s mascot Bruno. He’s the cutest thing ever.

Strangely Yours

On the side, I can’t stop listing to this song. Have a great week! x

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Down & Out


Why do people especially women strive to be perfect. To show that they are superwomen. Aren’t we that already without having to proof it to other women. It’s not like the man are bothered enough to notice. I think we women strive to keep up or even compete to be the best mother, wife, cook, daughter… against our own kind. The strive to have the perfect well brought up kids and getting that perfect fit body, cook gorgeous meals for family and guests while at the same time running a thriving business.

It’s important to find time to break away. Not everyday is a day to accomplish something. Sometimes a day of purely catching up on sleep and a book is equally important. To clear your mind to see what’s most important in life. I hope this up coming holiday would allow me to do that.


First image from here. Second image from here.

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Setting Tables

Finally, we’ve settled into our new digs. It’s been a hair raising couple of months with working on the move, packing, shifting, contractors, unpacking etc. etc.

…but we’ve made it, we’re officially moved-in and everything has found it’s space. A self proclaimed organised freak, I’m glad for the opportunity to access the amount of junk we’ve accumulated and managed to clear a lot of the unwanted clutter whilst unpacking.

I don’t want to talk about the amount of money we’ve spend with the move/construction work/purchases… lets just say we’ll be dining in a lot more. With that, I just love the idea of hosting dinners in with friends and family a lot more now.

Simple Style


First image from here. Outdoor table setting image from here. Kettle On image from here. Forth image from here. Fifth image from here. Last image from here. Tuscany table setting from here.

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Stick it Under my Tree

1) I’m been thinking about getting a sewing machine for a while now and to take some basic sewing courses. I’ve got BIG plans with this.

2) Emma Enchanting Chemise from Perk to sleep in.

3) Ingrid Triangle Bralette & Candice Thing from Perk.

4) I love this fresh coloured Pink Maxi Skirt with Pleats paired along with this New Issie Top by Diane Von Furstenburg.

5) Fig & Vanilla home scented candle by Sydney Hale Company.

6) Holly scandal by Camper

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Ho Chi Minh City

Ok so my husband and I recently celebrated our 4th Anniversary in Ho Chi Minh City.
I was uber-excited, as this is the first time after a year taking a plane again! Best part… NO KIDS! It was only 2 days and 1 night, but I’ll take what I can get.

I was mostly walking the streets of HCMC on my own during the day as this was all work for Garth, but I throughly enjoyed time alone in a different city. Excited to check-out what the city had to offer while hugging my handbag close to me because honestly, I didn’t want a drive-by purse snatcher ruining my one day of holiday.

Over-all I love the city. The night life was awesome people were lovely but I don’t think I can get used to the traffic.

Some snaps taken to share :)

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So Far…

Sorry I’ve not been in action past few weeks.
There’s been lots going on and I was involved in none of it. :)
I suppose I can rest my lack of blog existence to the fact that I’ve just been a genuinely busy mum!

With friends in town not to mention we’ve been having some fun along the way.

On a different note. Urban Kandy will be having an online massive sale with huge discounts soon. Please keep your eyes on this space for updates!

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Lacking Luster

…and a very good Monday morning to you. With a miserable 4hours sleep last night I’m sucking down on my cup of chai latte writing this. Looking for something to get me through this week. There is so much to do with very little energy or enthusiasm to do it.

…and then, I saw this video and I’m inspired to go home and to firstly squeeze an additional 2 hours sleep followed by an extra warm shower and get my arse in gear to get the best out of today.

“..but the one thing you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can. The moment that you feel that just possibly you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself, that’s the moment you may be starting to get it right.”

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Singapore’s Gardens By the Bay

After spending the whole day Saturday pottering around at home, today we decided to pack up the family and check out Singapore’s newly opened Gardens By the Bay.

Despite it being blistering hot we managed to stay cool in the Garden’s “Cloud Forest” within the climate controlled conservatories. Devon enjoyed the running around in misty air while Noah for once had his first outdoor sleeping experience without breaking sweat.

Didn’t quite manage getting up on the artificial tree top walk but we enjoyed everything else. The plants were amazing. A real treat to for plant enthusiasts (not me) but still a good day out with the family and for the kids to scooter amongst plant species we don’t normally get to see in Singapore

All images taken from here

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This and That

… and I thought life couldn’t get more exciting. Cracking open a new crate of stock that has just arrived. This means lots of work to be done but we can’t wait to announce our new arrivals.

On another note, our very first professional family photo shoot has come through! I’m very pleased with the work of our photographer Hema hema R photography for capturing gorgeous moments. – Shout Out – :)

Have a great week ahead!

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This Mummy Business


It’s a struggle juggling time and I’m not good at it by any stretch which is why I keep asking Mums with businesses like me this question…. “How Do You Do It?!?” It seems like they have a winning formula to be able to juggle kids & family and a successful business along with a great social life and always looking primped through it all! I want in on this secret please.

I’m happy to see this blog post from Design Darling on a mum and business owner just like me!

Don’t spend too much time worrying about all the “what ifs” because those can stifle you. Make like the Nike slogan and “just do it!”

This mummy business is serious. Since having my first I now know the sacrifices that mum’s go through. My mum started at the age of 22. Funny how you never noticed the way other mothers live until you become one yourself. How under appreciated they are and all the sacrifices they go through.

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On the Look Out

We’re always on the look out for charming shop spaces for a retail store.
Sure with a toddler and another child on the way, this might seem a little distant but you can’t be too prepared to know what you want.

This Etsy Lab courtyard location is absolutely stunning.
…Sure it’s in Kruezberg, Berlin but I find this location totally charming.

First image found here, second image found here, third image found here