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GRIT – By Angela Duckworth

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I honestly do not know how I managed to finish a book in less then a month. I tend to think that I do not have any time to read a book let alone finish it. So clearly I am pulling time from the sky and making it happen. Goes to show that you do make time for what you feel is important. I believe reading should be one of them.

If you are in the business of following your passion. Then this book IS a must read. I think I got a whole lot of nuggets from here. I don’t tend to run the highlighter onto my books, (primarily because I borrow most of my books from the library now and therefore that would be wrong) but what I do though is write a whole lot of post-it notes and stick them all over. When I’m done I pull out each note and read them over again because I seriously can’t absorb information just by reading it once (hands up if you can relate).

With this book, I not only read back each note but I made sure to document it for easy reference. In a nutshell this book Grit is not about success though being talented. Yes, some people can acquire success with their talent but for the rest of us, success is achievable through this simple thing called effort. As Will Smith put it quite clearly:

“Die on the treadmill. But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things. You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die. It’s really that simple.”

Find your passion and stick to it, work hard at it. Don’t use set-baks as poof that it doesn’t work for you. Banish that thought from your head forever. Instead replace it with the word GRIT! It’s a cool word and you don’t hear it being used very often. Think to yourself that this is the word that you would like be associated with and push forward with effort…. and GET this book! x

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American Sponge Cake ~ Success!

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This sponge cake recipe is full-proof! I have made it twice already and both with wonderful results!
This is from someone who hardly bakes. Great slices of cake to pack into kids lunch boxes as a special school tea cake to have them thinking of their Mommy. 😉

Taken from The Cake Bible ~ Rose Levy Beranbaum

Ingredients (all in room temperature):

  1. 2 tablespoons water
  2. 1/5 teaspoon vanilla
  3. 1 1/2 teaspoon grated lemon zest
  4. 1 1/3 cups sifted cake flour
  5. 1 cup sugar
  6. 6 large eggs, separated yolks & whites
  7. 3/4 teaspoon cream of tartar

Method:

  • Preheat oven to 350°F.
  • In a small bowl combine water, vanilla & lemon zest
  • Remove 1 tablespoon of the sugar and reserve to beat with the whites
  • In another smaller bowl which together the flour and 3 tablespoons of the sugar
  • In a large mixing bowl beat the yolks and the remaining 3/4 cup sugar on high speed for 5minutes or until the mixture is very thick and ribbons with dropped from the beater.
  • Lower the speed and gradually add the water mixture. Increase to high speed beat for 30 seconds.
  • Shift the flour mixture over the yolk mixture without mixing in and set aside.
  • Beat the whites until foamy, add the cream of tartar, and beat until soft peaks form when the beater is raised.
  • Beat in reserved 1 tablespoon sugar and beat until very stiff peaks form when the beater is raised slowly.
  • Add 1/3 of the whites to the yolk mixture and with a large skimmer or rubber spatula fold until incorporated. Gently fold in the remaining 2 batches.
  • Pour into the pan. (It will a little more then 1/2 full)
  • Run a small metal spatula or knife though the batter to prevent air pockets.
  • Back for 30 to 35 minutes or until golden brown and the cake tester comes out clean.
  • Suspend the pan tube opening over the neck of a wine or soda bottle well above the counter to allow it to cool completely. (think might take about 1hr)
  • Loosen the sides with a long metal spatula. Invert onto a wire rack or serving plate. Wrap airtight

This stores for a good 5-6days in the refrigerator or frozen for 2months.

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The Art of Relaxation

 

I’ll tell you the truth. I’m not a fan of writhing blog posts but I love posting and editing pictures. I used Photoshop Elements (and I’m still learning) to create this collage of photos. Not overwhelming you with the hundreds of photos I took during this holidays. I’m still debating very hard wether to get the new iPhone 7+ or to invest in a fancy smancy camera. Would love to take more photos to add to my blog and to my children’s private blog page. Any suggestions are welcome. There are so many photo filtering Apps that works well with the iPhone but now with Photoshop Elements I’m practicing fine-tuning some photos myself on my computer.

What have I appreciated most about this holiday… Is quality time with the family. We stayed at the beautiful Seclusions by the Bay. (<— Check out the link). I enjoyed the simple things like making breakfast together as a family, letting Garth tend the manly barbecue for the meats in the evening. Even washing the dishes while listening to spottify (‘your favourite coffeehouse’ playlist) not worrying about planning for the next day. Because the next day will be there and we are still on holiday and therefore no concrete commitments to plan for. Think that was the best feeling ever!

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International Women’s Day

What do we celebrate on International Women’s Day?

  1. Feminism?
  2. Sisterhood?
  3. Women’s Rights?
  4. All of the above???

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Starting from my mother, aunts, grandmother, cousins and girlfriends. They were my first influences, boys were not relatable except for my Dad but he was basically my hero. But these women were my first and primary influences growing up. They were ALL amazeballs! They kick ass especially my mom who worked but yet managed to be there for her family. She was the rock we all sat on in the middle of the shark infested waters ~ Ala Blake Lively in that shark movie. However I grew up a very insecure girl, why? Because society said I wasn’t good enough.

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Why are women never treated equal I will never understand. I think it has a-lot to do with insecurity of men. Maybe it’s the same reason why women don’t take stronger stands with supporting one another.

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Internation Women’s Day to me is all about women empowering other women. Sharing stories about your struggles doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you human and COURAGES. It opens the door to empathy which then leads to connection.

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I’m reading this awesome book by Brené Brown, get your hands on it if you can with a good highlighter. There’s lots of good nuggets in there.

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I’ve planted a photo here of my Grandma, my dear friend Chrissie and my Mom. *Note to Self: Take better photos with people’s faces fully in frame!* On that note I’m going to leave you with good thoughts of Love and Kindness.

Onwards and Upwards,
Sx

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Homecoming

We’ll it has been a year long hiatus but I’m back! Urban Kandy is now back in business after a long soul searching, praying, contemplating, procrastinating… etc. etc. I really had to detox and re-think my direction. Sure children had been the biggest excuse.. and why not? I’m a mom and I have made them my priority. Now… I’m thinking these kids might soon turn into little spoilt brats if I don’t step back on the mothering and leave them to sort themselves out once in a while and I go for Yoga!

Anyway, I’m SO happy to be back and blogging.

Love, Sx

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Happy 2016!

 

Happy 2016!
Already back in the grind and smelling the coffee each morning reminds me that the holidays are finally over. I felt a little upset un-decorating my tree but I also felt a sense of excitement to start the new year. I am against resolutions but I do want to take into play all that I’ve learned in 2015 and apply them to this New Year and basically putting one foot in front of the other this time a little wiser then before.

A few things. I have learned:
1) Creating Possibilities.

It is as easy as it sounds. Nothing else is holding me back except for myself. With that in mind I can create anything knowing that nothing external can hold me back. Onward and Upward!

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2) Relationships are to be cherished

Despite how different I am from someone else. Understanding that someone’s personality is derived from their life’s circumstances and who am I to judge.

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3) Never feel guilty for taking “Me” time

I have this thanks her for this.

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4) Practice Being Present

I have come to the realisation that that voice in my head isn’t really me or who I am. So now I can be present to it and learn to control it.

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5) Don’t sweat the small stuff

Keep taking the calculated big leaps first then worry about the safe stuff later. I have always avoided the bigger decision out of fear of the unknown. Practice keeping to the integrity of the possibility I’ve created

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6) Read more romance novels

As cheesy as some of these stories are it does the trick to help me gravitate to being a more loving wife.